Loyalties & Disavowal

A flawed understanding of ‘loyalty and disavowal’ – الولاء والبراء

Some people mistakenly think that a believer cannot love ANY disbeliever, and that ALL disbelievers must be hated and treated harshly [أَشِدَّاءُ عَلَى الْكُفَّارِ رُحَمَاءُ بَيْنَهُمْ] as enemies, etc. One can have NO sympathy with ANY disbeliever whatsoever, etc.

They have a binary mentality and split the entire world in 2 camps: ‘believers’ [المؤمنين] and ‘disbelievers’ [الكافرين]. All the believers get good treatment and all the disbelievers get bad treatment. There is no middle-ground in their minds.

They don’t understand the concept of ‘addressee’ [مخاطب], they think that everything is aimed at everyone!

They apply ALL the texts about the ‘believers’ on ALL ‘believers’ and ALL the texts about ‘disbelievers’ on ALL ‘disbelievers’. They take Ayaat and Ahadith, which were revealed about disbelievers in the context of warfare and in the middle of a conflict – and they apply it on their non-hostile neighbours, and family members who are also disbelievers but not at war.

This initial split between believers and unbelievers is correct because there is nothing in the middle – however when it comes to treatment, the Shariah then splits these 2 groups up into further sub-groups, each has a different ruling and treatment.

The truth is: Islam is not a passivist religion. It does not encourage turning the other cheek when someone slaps you. It encourages harshness, enmity and hostility with those unbelievers who are hostile. It discourages loyalties and friendship with them. And it encourages kindness, softness and good conduct with those unbelievers who are non-hostile.

Here are some example:

1- 𝗗𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝘆𝗽𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱𝘂𝗰𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀
The Qur’an states:
‏لَّا يَنْهَىٰكُمُ ٱللَّهُ عَنِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَمْ يُقَتِلُوكُمْ فِى ٱلدِّينِ وَلَمْ يُخْرِجُوكُم مِّن دِيَرِكُمْ أَن تَبَرُّوهُمْ وَتُقْسِطُوٓا۟ إِلَيْهِمْ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلْمُقْسِطِينَ
إِنَّمَا يَنْهَىٰكُمُ ٱللَّهُ عَنِ ٱلَّذِينَ قَٰتَلُوكُمْ فِى ٱلدِّينِ وَأَخْرَجُوكُم مِّن دِيَٰرِكُمْ وَظَٰهَرُواْ عَلَىٰٓ إِخْرَاجِكُمْ أَن تَوَلَّوْهُمْ ۚ وَمَن يَتَوَلَّهُمْ فَأُوْلَٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّٰلِمُونَ
“God does not forbid you from dealing kindly and equitably with those who did not fight you because of your faith and did not drive you out of your homes. God loves those who are equitable. But God forbids you from befriending those who fought against you over your faith and drove you from your homes and helped others to drive you out. Any who takes them for friends are the wrongdoers.” [Qur’an 60:8-9].

2- 𝗠𝘂𝘀𝗹𝗶𝗺 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝗝𝗲𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗖𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻:
وَطَعَامُ ٱلَّذِينَ أُوتُوا۟ ٱلْكِتَبَ حِلٌّۭ لَّكُمْ وَطَعَامُكُمْ حِلٌّۭ لَّهُمْ ۖ وَٱلْمُحْصَنَتُ مِنَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنَتِ وَٱلْمُحْصَنَتُ مِنَ ٱلَّذِينَ أُوتُوا۟ ٱلْكِتَبَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ
“The food of the people of the Book is lawful to you just as your food is lawful to them. Virtuous, believing women are lawful to you as well as virtuous women from the People of the Book.” [Qur’an 5:5].
Many Sahaba married with Jewish and Christian women.
We can marry them, but we cannot love them?
We can marry them, but we should hate them?
We can live in the same house, but treat them as enemies?
How is this possible?

3- 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗽𝗵𝗲𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗹𝗲 𝗔𝗯𝘂 𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗯, 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿:
إِنَّكَ لَا تَهْدِى مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ وَلَكِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يَهْدِى مَن يَشَآءُ ۚ
“You [O Mohammad], cannot guide [to the Truth] whom you love, but God guides whom He wants.” [Qur’an 28:56].
If all disbelievers should be hated, why did the Prophet love his uncle?

4- 𝗞𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝘁𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗻 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀:
Narrated Asma’ bint Abu Bakr:
عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ عَلَىَّ أُمِّي وَهْىَ مُشْرِكَةٌ، فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قُلْتُ ‏{‏إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ‏}‏ وَهْىَ رَاغِبَةٌ، أَفَأَصِلُ أُمِّي قَالَ ‏ “‏ نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ ‏”‏‏.‏
My mother came to me during the lifetime of Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) and she was a pagan. I said to Allah’s Apostle (seeking his verdict), “My mother has come to me and she desires to receive a reward from me, shall I keep good relations with her?” The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Yes, keep good relation with her. ”
[“Sahih Bukhari”, 2620].
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:2620
Al-Qaadhy Iyaadh said:
فيه جواز صلة المشرك ذى القرابة والحرمة والذمام
‘This is evidence for maintaining ties of kinship with moshrik relatives.’
[‘Ikmal al-Mu’alim’, 3/523].
If it was required to be harsh against all moshrikin and hate them and distance ourselves, why did the Prophet tell her to be kind to her polytheist mother?

5- 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗶𝘁𝗵𝘀:
The Prophet said:
تَصَدَّقُوا عَلَى أَهْلِ الْأَدْيَانِ
“Give charity to the people of other faiths.”
[‘Ibn Abi Shaybah’, (3/177) – see also ‘Silsilah as-Sahihah’, 2766].

6- 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗝𝗲𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝗻𝗲𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀:
Mujahid reported:
عَنْ مُجَاهِدٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، أَنَّهُ ذُبِحَتْ لَهُ شَاةٌ، فَجَعَلَ يَقُولُ لِغُلاَمِهِ‏:‏ أَهْدَيْتَ لِجَارِنَا الْيَهُودِيِّ‏؟‏ أَهْدَيْتَ لِجَارِنَا الْيَهُودِيِّ‏؟‏ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ‏:‏ مَا زَالَ جِبْرِيلُ يُوصِينِي بِالْجَارِ حَتَّى ظَنَنْتُ أَنَّهُ سَيُوَرِّثُهُ‏.‏
A sheep was slaughtered for ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr. He asked his slave, “Have you given any to our Jewish neighbour? Have you given any to our Jewish neighbour? I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, ‘Jibril kept on recommending that I treat my neighbours well until I thought that he would order me to treat them as my heirs.'”
[“Al-Adab Al-Mufrad”, 105 – صـحـيـح ].
https://sunnah.com/adab:105
If all disbelievers were to be treated with harshness as enemies – why did the Sahaba give gifts to their Jewish neighbours?

7- 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗻𝘀
Imam Bukhari titled a Chapter: “Giving presents to Polytheists”
Narrated Ibn `Umar:
رَأَى عُمَرُ حُلَّةً عَلَى رَجُلٍ تُبَاعُ فَقَالَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ابْتَعْ هَذِهِ الْحُلَّةَ تَلْبَسْهَا يَوْمَ الْجُمُعَةِ وَإِذَا جَاءَكَ الْوَفْدُ‏.‏ فَقَالَ ‏”‏ إِنَّمَا يَلْبَسُ هَذَا مَنْ لاَ خَلاَقَ لَهُ فِي الآخِرَةِ ‏”‏‏.‏ فَأُتِيَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مِنْهَا بِحُلَلٍ فَأَرْسَلَ إِلَى عُمَرَ مِنْهَا بِحُلَّةٍ‏.‏ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ كَيْفَ أَلْبَسُهَا وَقَدْ قُلْتَ فِيهَا مَا قُلْتَ قَالَ ‏”‏ إِنِّي لَمْ أَكْسُكَهَا لِتَلْبَسَهَا، تَبِيعُهَا أَوْ تَكْسُوهَا ‏”‏‏.‏ فَأَرْسَلَ بِهَا عُمَرُ إِلَى أَخٍ لَهُ مِنْ أَهْلِ مَكَّةَ قَبْلَ أَنْ يُسْلِمَ‏.‏
`Umar saw a silken cloak over a man for sale and requested the Prophet (ﷺ) to buy it in order to wear it on Fridays and while meeting delegates. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “This is worn by the one who will have no share in the Hereafter.” Later on Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) got some silken cloaks similar to that one, and he sent one to `Umar. `Umar said to the Prophet (ﷺ) “How can I wear it, while you said about it what you said?” The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “I have not given it to you to wear, but to sell or to give to someone else.” So, `Umar sent it to his brother at Mecca before he embraced Islam.
[“Sahih al-Bukhari”, 2619].
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:2619

8- 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗽𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗻𝘀
Imam Bukhari also made another Chapter: “The acceptance of presents from Polytheists”
Narrated Anas:
أُهْدِيَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم جُبَّةُ سُنْدُسٍ، وَكَانَ يَنْهَى عَنِ الْحَرِيرِ، فَعَجِبَ النَّاسُ مِنْهَا فَقَالَ ‏ “‏ وَالَّذِي نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ لَمَنَادِيلُ سَعْدِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ فِي الْجَنَّةِ أَحْسَنُ مِنْ هَذَا ‏”‏‏.‏ وَقَالَ سَعِيدٌ عَنْ قَتَادَةَ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ، إِنَّ أُكَيْدِرَ دُومَةَ أَهْدَى إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏
A Jubba (i.e. cloak) made of thick silken cloth was presented to the Prophet. The Prophet (ﷺ) used to forbid people to wear silk. So, the people were pleased to see it. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “By Him in Whose Hands Muhammad’s soul is, the handkerchiefs of Sa`d bin Mu`adh in Paradise are better than this.” Anas added, “The present was sent to the Prophet (ﷺ) by Ukaidir (a Christian) from Dauma.”
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:2615

9- 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗽𝗵𝗲𝘁’𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿
The Prophet’s love for his mother, who did not die as a believer according to some Ahadith:
Narrated Abu Hurairah:
أَتَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَبْرَ أُمِّهِ فَبَكَى وَأَبْكَى مَنْ حَوْلَهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ اسْتَأْذَنْتُ رَبِّي تَعَالَى عَلَى أَنْ أَسْتَغْفِرَ لَهَا فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لِي فَاسْتَأْذَنْتُ أَنْ أَزُورَ قَبْرَهَا فَأُذِنَ لِي فَزُورُوا الْقُبُورَ فَإِنَّهَا تُذَكِّرُ بِالْمَوْتِ
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) visited his mother’s grave and wept and cause those around him to weep. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) then said: “I asked my Lord’s permission to pray for forgiveness for her, but I was not allowed. I then asked His permission to visit her grave, and I was allowed. So visit graves, for they make one mindful of death.”
[“Abu Dawud”, 3234 – صحيح].
https://sunnah.com/abudawud:3234

10- 𝗕𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗝𝗲𝘄𝘀:
It was narrated that ‘Aishah said:
اشْتَرَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مِنْ يَهُودِيٍّ طَعَامًا بِنَسِيئَةٍ وَأَعْطَاهُ دِرْعًا لَهُ رَهْنًا ‏
“The Messenger of Allah bought some food from a Jew on credit, and he gave him a shield of his as a pledge. ”
[“Sunan an-Nasa’i”, 4650 – صـحـيـح].
https://sunnah.com/nasai:4650
This is evidence for the permissibility of doing business with disbelievers.

11- Abu Dharr reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:
إِنَّكُمْ سَتَفْتَحُونَ أَرْضًا يُذْكَرُ فِيهَا الْقِيرَاطُ فَاسْتَوْصُوا بِأَهْلِهَا خَيْرًا فَإِنَّ لَهُمْ ذِمَّةً وَرَحِمًا
“You would soon conquer a land where people are in the habit of using foul language. They have a right of kinship upon you.”
[“Sahih Muslim”, 2543a].
https://sunnah.com/muslim:2543a

12- 𝗦𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗻𝗼𝗻-𝗠𝘂𝘀𝗹𝗶𝗺 𝗱𝗼𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿:
Narrated Sa’d:
عَنْ سَعْدٍ، قَالَ مَرِضْتُ مَرَضًا أَتَانِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَعُودُنِي فَوَضَعَ يَدَهُ بَيْنَ ثَدْيَىَّ حَتَّى وَجَدْتُ بَرْدَهَا عَلَى فُؤَادِي فَقَالَ ‏ “‏ إِنَّكَ رَجُلٌ مَفْئُودٌ ائْتِ الْحَارِثَ بْنَ كَلَدَةَ أَخَا ثَقِيفٍ فَإِنَّهُ رَجْلٌ يَتَطَبَّبُ فَلْيَأْخُذْ سَبْعَ تَمَرَاتٍ مِنْ عَجْوَةِ الْمَدِينَةِ فَلْيَجَأْهُنَّ بِنَوَاهُنَّ ثُمَّ لِيَلُدَّكَ بِهِنَّ ‏”‏ ‏.
I suffered from an illness. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) came to pay a visit to me. He put his hands between my nipples and I felt its coolness at my heart. He said: You are a man suffering from heart sickness. Go to al-Harith ibn Kaladah, brother of Thaqif. He is a man who gives medical treatment. He should take seven ajwah dates of Medina and grind them with their kernels, and then put them into your mouth.”
[“Abu Dawud”, 3875 – ضعيف].
https://sunnah.com/abudawud:3875
Ibn Abu Haatem and Ibn Hajar them stated that al-Harith ibn Kaladah was not a Muslim [it was said that he was a Muslim but this is not correct].

13- 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗽𝗵𝗲𝘁 𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗝𝗲𝘄𝘀 𝗴𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗶𝗺:
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
أَتَتِ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِشَاةٍ مَسْمُومَةٍ، فَأَكَلَ مِنْهَا فَجِيءَ بِهَا فَقِيلَ أَلاَ نَقْتُلُهَا‏.‏ قَالَ ‏ “‏ لاَ ‏”‏‏.‏ فَمَا زِلْتُ أَعْرِفُهَا فِي لَهَوَاتِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏.‏
A Jewess brought a poisoned (cooked) sheep for the Prophet (ﷺ) who ate from it. She was brought to the Prophet and he was asked, “Shall we kill her?” He said, “No.” I continued to see the effect of the poison on the palate of the mouth of Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) .
[“Sahih al-Bukhari”, 2617].
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:2617

14- 𝗔 𝗝𝗲𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝗯𝗼𝘆 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗽𝗵𝗲𝘁, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗽𝗵𝗲𝘁 𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝗺 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗸:
Narrated Anas:
كَانَ غُلاَمٌ يَهُودِيٌّ يَخْدُمُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَمَرِضَ، فَأَتَاهُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَعُودُهُ، فَقَعَدَ عِنْدَ رَأْسِهِ فَقَالَ لَهُ ‏”‏ أَسْلِمْ ‏”‏‏.‏ فَنَظَرَ إِلَى أَبِيهِ وَهْوَ عِنْدَهُ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَطِعْ أَبَا الْقَاسِمِ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏.‏ فَأَسْلَمَ، فَخَرَجَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَهْوَ يَقُولُ ‏”‏ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي أَنْقَذَهُ مِنَ النَّارِ ‏”‏‏.‏
A young Jewish boy used to serve the Prophet (ﷺ) and he became sick. So the Prophet (ﷺ) went to visit him. He sat near his head and asked him to embrace Islam. The boy looked at his father, who was sitting there; the latter told him to obey Abul-Qasim and the boy embraced Islam. The Prophet (ﷺ) came out saying: “Praises be to Allah Who saved the boy from the Hell-fire.”
[“Sahih al-Bukhari”, 1356].
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:1356

15- Imam Bukhari titled a Chapter:
باب مُشَارَكَةِ الذِّمِّيِّ وَالْمُشْرِكِينَ فِي الْمُزَارَعَةِ
𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗮 𝗗𝗵𝗶𝗺𝗺𝗶 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝗠𝗼𝘀𝗵𝗿𝗶𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝗔𝗴𝗿𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲
Narrated `Abdullah bin `Umar:
أَعْطَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم خَيْبَرَ الْيَهُودَ أَنْ يَعْمَلُوهَا وَيَزْرَعُوهَا، وَلَهُمْ شَطْرُ مَا يَخْرُجُ مِنْهَا‏.‏
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) gave the land of Khaibar to the Jews on the condition that they would work on it and cultivate it and they would get half of its yield.
[“Sahih Bukhari”, 2720].
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:2720

16- 𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗼𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀:
Narrated `Aisha:
وَاسْتَأْجَرَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَأَبُو بَكْرٍ رَجُلاً مِنْ بَنِي الدِّيلِ ثُمَّ مِنْ بَنِي عَبْدِ بْنِ عَدِيٍّ هَادِيًا
The Prophet (ﷺ) and Abu Bakr employed a (pagan) man from the tribe of Bani Ad-Dail and the tribe of Bani ‘Abu bin `Adi as a guide.”
[“Sahih Bukhari”, 2263].
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:2263

17- 𝗥𝗲𝗴𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝗵𝗿𝗶𝗸 (polytheist) 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀
The Qur’an instructs the believers:
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِى ٱلدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًۭا ۖ
“And keep company with them in this world kindly.” [Qur’an 31:15].
Imam al-Qurtubi states:
والآية دليل على صلة الأبوين الكافرين
‘This verse is evidence for maintaining family ties with disbelieving parents.’
[‘Jami li Ahkam al-Qur’an’, 1/301].

And there are many more such examples…………

This is a natural love on human level. It is not a love for disbelief. Loving disbelief is disbelief. We don’t do that.

But to take the Ayaat and Ahaadith that were revealed on the battlefield and apply them on your non-hostile non-muslim neighbours or family, is a huge mistake.

This is NOT how the Prophet and Sahaba acted.

If we treat ALL disbelievers harsh/hostile and distance ourselves – how will they ever accept Islam?

Each TEXT has a CONTEXT.

The texts about war apply during war and the texts about peace apply during peace……