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When “bad assumptions” (سوء الظن) are permissible: In principle, we should have good assumptions (حسن الظن) about our brothers and sisters, but if someone displays bad conduct, we should not be gullible and expect only good to come from them. Ibn B...

A young boy was serving a gathering of elders. As he saw the big people, he became nervous and spilled a cup on the floor. Instead of punishing the boy, the elders smiled and said: وَلِلأَرْضِ مِنْ كأسِ الكِرامِ نَصِيبُ "The earth also has...

It is said: لكل بيت أسرار "Every house has its secrets..." There are no exceptions. When you visit other people's houses, respect people's privacy. Don't try to dig for answers, if they don't tell it to you themselv...

A shopkeeper asked another shop-keeper: "Why do people buy from you, but not from me?" He replied: أنا أبيع الخل بلسان من عسل، و أنت تبيع العسل بلسان من خل "I sell vinegar with a tongue, sweet like honey; You sell honey with...

About keeping secrets ... it is said: صدور الأبرار قبور الأسرار "the chests of the pious (abraar), are graveyards of secrets (asraar)." Meaning: when a secret reaches the ear of a good person, it d...

When you borrow a book, return it as it was given to you: A man borrowed a book from Imam Al-Isfarayini. He returned the book, with leftovers of fruit inside it. Later on, the man wanted to borrow another bo...

Standing up for people out of Respect - القيام للقادم When Sa'd arrived, the Prophet said to the Ansaar: قُومُوا إِلَى سَيِّدِكُمْ "STAND UP FOR YOUR LEADER." ["Sahih Bukhari", 3043]. Based on this, most scholars say that it is recommended to hon...

Is it OK to praise people face to face? - المداحون الناس Yes - if it is the truth (حق), and there is no fear that the person will feel proud etc. EVIDENCES: 1- Khadijah praised the Prophet, face to face: إِنَّكَ لَتَصِلُ الرَّحِمَ، وَتَصْدُقُ الْح...

A man was giving good quality food to a blind man. Someone suggested that he should be given lower quality food, by saying: هذا الأعمى لا يدري ماذا يأكلُ ! "This blind man doesn't even know what he is eatin...

Good Manners - أدب When someone tells you something that you already know, don't cut them off. Ataa Ibn Abi Rabah has said: إن الرجل ليحدثني بالحديث فأنصت له كأني لم أسمع هذا الحديث من قبل وقد سمعته قبل أن يولد "A young man would tell me ...